Feel Free to Think

Being an empath and how I’m surviving

First if you want to know more about what I mean by “empath” I invite you to read a very broad and basic definition here.

Being empath driven effects multiple areas of my life, how I approach work, relationships, goals, etc. Rather than managing these with fact or logic, it’s more on absorbed emotion and relativity. In other words, I let my heart do the thinking. Like when I bought my new car I had to ask for a different salesperson because he rubbed me the wrong way; too aggressive and bad energy. Or how everyone brings up that I’m always missing in group pictures. Makes sense, I didn’t go. 

So yes empaths move a little different, but now I’m learning new moves:

I’ve made peace with the fact that I’ll most likely be the person who cares more in a relationship. Cue “I Care” by Beyonce.

I’m well aware of the risks of being taken advantage of. This is an understanding for all natural givers anyway, we expect disappointment. Now I just try not to give so quickly, working on it.

I’ve accepted that I live on the high road and  biting my tongue has become a skilled practice. It’s easy to confide in me, I keep all the secrets but never for myself. So when my close friend is living a bold face lie, I try to support and encourage without bearing the weight of secrecy. Freeing up emotional capacity makes room for social possibilities.

I focus heavily on how I make people feel. Congratulations if you have the privilege to be apathetic. I speak my heart constantly and can never disguise as nonchalant and unbothered.

And for my fellow empaths, please connect with me. Share what you do to survive being highly empathetic or maybe just what it’s been like for you.

Love Nita

p.s. nice to meet you